By Dr. Miluna Fausch, HHCP, Ph.D., Public Speaking + Presentation Coach
There are words that I hear that cause me to inwardly and sometimes outwardly, sigh.
In fact, because of the sensitivity of my hearing, they can cause me literal pain.
Here comes a phrase that I do not need to hear again or not hear in this particular way. I just attended a weekend seminar with some very high end speakers and do you know that 80% of them used this phrase?
Can you hear me cringing right now?
Ready to know what this phrase is?
“Thank you for having me.”
Having me for dinner?
Having me stand here looking nervous before I speak?
Our language and the changes in our language over the years, is a fascinating (possibly that is an overused word right there) research topic. Let us find and actually use some new words. Make friends with your local thesaurus. How about opening with a warm, truthful, simple: “I am so happy to be here with you today”. “It is a pleasure to be here.” “Thank you. I feel honored to be standing here sharing with you why we started this company”.
It’s like when I hear “gone missing” on forensic television. You are either gone or you are missing you have not gone missing.
Who joined this annoying and trivializing pair of words together?
OK, let me also mention the second phrase uttered by a speaker that makes me cringe,
“Without further ado”.
Rhymes with do do or doo doo.
Now I am a huge fan of Shakespeare-the man could write- but for now let us say bye-bye and Auf Wiedersehen to ado!
Dear speakers, find your own words that are simple, authentic and something that you would say.
Practice different ways of opening your talks and have 2-3 polished openings ready at all times.
Be clear about why you are speaking and what your intention is. In other words, turn on your inner GPS at the very beginning of your process so that you know your destination. When you work in this way, your intention will become stronger and you will have more clarity.